Simple Truths

Dear Church Family,

Greetings in Jesus name!


I have spent over 70,000 hours in ministry. That involves a lot of things, teaching, studying, discipling, developing leaders, etcetera. It is widely expected that you are considered an expert in something when you have 10,000 hours invested in it. So, at the risk of sounding arrogant, I would be considered an expert at ministry and everything it involves. One of the things that fascinates me about ministry is people and how they relate to one another. 


I have a saying, “We all have to live together.” What I mean by that is that we all attend the same church, we are all part of one another’s lives, so we should do everything we can to make the best of it. One of the most taxing things to a pastor is when the people of God just don’t get along. Getting along usually boils down to some simple truths.


One would be empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand and share another’s feelings. You don’t have to agree with those feelings, but taking them into consideration is vital to healthy relationships. How does what you say or do affect those around you? Are you taking into consideration what others are hearing and seeing? Very often we are more concerned with our feelings than the feelings of others, but relationships are two-way streets, and for relationships to be successful (Biblical) we need to consider others.


Another truth would be kindness. Kindness is a fruit of the Spirit. Kindness is the quality of being warmhearted, considerate, humane, gentle and sympathetic. A good example of this is “please” and “thank you.” You may not be a warmhearted person by nature, however, that would be fallen nature. You are a “Spirit person,” and a fruit of the Holy Spirit in you is kindness. Inventory how you deal with others. Is it kind? You have to worry a lot less about how people are “receiving” you if you are kind to them. It amazes me how little kindness is showed others at church. 


Patience is another truth to relational strength and another fruit of the Spirit. 


Ephesians 4:2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. 


People can be difficult to be patient with, but a mature believer will let patience rule. Remembering that everyone is a “work in progress” can facilitate patience. 


Examine yourself. How do you measure up on these three relationship truths? 


Call you blessed!